(CNN) -- Marriage, any good therapist will tell you, is a
balancing act.
For Angela and Willie Gillis, the act is easy. They've been
best friends for more than 10 years, married for three. Their individual
strengths balance the other's weaknesses.
They credit this sense of balance with helping them lose a
combined 500 pounds.
"Everyone needs that one person to help them through,
to talk to and someone who will hold them accountable. That person has been my
husband," Angela writes on her blog, WeBeatFat.com.
A few days before their first wedding anniversary, Willie
woke up and told his wife, "I'm tired of being big." He had just
gotten back from visiting his newborn goddaughter and was scared he might not
live long enough to see her grow up.
"For years I had been reading up on 'This is how you
lose weight -- nutrition, exercise,'" he says. "I wanted to see if I
could do it."
That was January 2011. He weighed 492 pounds.
His wife didn't have to think long about joining him in his
quest.
Growing up, she never thought she had a problem. "You
know how (New Jersey) Gov. (Chris) Christie said, 'I'm the healthiest fat
person'? That's how I was," she remembers.
She was fairly active, but she loved food. If she was happy,
she ate. If she was sad, she ate. If she had the best day of her life, she ate
chili cheese tater tots.
By January 2011, she weighed 338 pounds.
Willie had recently moved to Angela's hometown of Beaumont,
Texas -- a city so enamored with fried food and lazy summer days that it was
named the fifth most obese city in the nation in 2012.
Even in the growing population, the two felt ostracized by
their size.
"It's amazing how people will look at you when you're
fat," she says. "We just didn't want to be those people
anymore."
So, her husband took out his research and created a plan.
The couple started hitting the gym six days a week. At first, all they could do
was walk 30 minutes on the treadmill. Slowly they increased their time, until
she was running and he had walked off almost 150 pounds.
In the kitchen, Angela was the expert. She loves to cook and
quickly learned to make healthier versions of the couple's favorite meals. The
Gillises started eating a solid breakfast of steel cut oats and fruit or veggie
omelets. They packed diet-friendly frozen meals for lunch and low-calorie
snacks like yogurt, carrots and apples. Dinner was -- and still is -- lean
meats and vegetables.
"We haven't had fried food in two years," she
says.
That doesn't mean they don't give in to cravings on
occasion. Willie used an iPhone app to track his calories and saved a few every
day for a weekend treat. Angela had to continually ask herself if she was
eating something because she loved it or because she just loved eating. Through
it all, they kept each other accountable.
"I never wanted to come home and say, 'This is what I
did today,' because I didn't want to disappoint him," she says. "And
he didn't want to disappoint me."
Eating out was their biggest obstacle. Even light restaurant
meals can be loaded with sodium and fat. It didn't bother the Gillises to go
out and not eat anything, but it bothered the people they were with.
"Most of the memories we had with our friends (were)
sitting down, going out to eat," she remembers. "Food is a very
social thing."
They ended up isolating themselves a bit, and met new
friends through their gym. They took photos of their progress, seeing a visible
change each month as they weighed in.
Life for the Gillises is now full of activity. She teaches
spin classes at the gym and recently completed a half marathon. She's lost 200
pounds, going from a size 28 to a size 0.
"I'm stronger. I believe more. I go after things I want
more. I was never, ever a risk taker, but now I take the risk," she says.
Willie joined a local running club. He has lost 300 pounds
and gained a world of self-confidence.
"A lot of people give up -- they end up quitting
because they're not doing something right. You have to take what you messed up
on and try to make it work for you," he says. "Once you learn it, it
doesn't take much to keep it going."
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